Stop Making Excuses For Bullsh*t Behavior

It never ceases to amaze me how what was once unacceptable to women, when they were single, becomes acceptable when they find someone to blow sweet nothings in their ear. I’m happy to say that I’m not that type of woman. Never have been, never will be. I’ll call a spade a spade in a minute, regardless of my ‘dating’ status or situation.

What I cannot deal with are women who will find every excuse and reason to accept unacceptable behavior from men. For example, ever since the Chris Brown & Rihanna incident you have women who are coming to his defense. Many questioned what Rihanna did to provoke the beating she received. You have women who actually felt sorry for Chris Brown, and the list goes on. Why women are feeling sorry for him and his shitty actions is beyond me. I can’t even start to comprehend it.

Some of yall (yeah I wrote ‘yall’) out there accept their shit and smile & grin and are happy with it. Double fail on you!

I don’t care if it’s a family member, a male friend or companion. I don’t accept half-ass’ness, bitch-ass’ness, or trifling-ass’ness behavior, especially when it comes to a potential suitor. Women, when you accept these behaviors from men, you’re making it acceptable?!? If this means that I’ll be perpetually single, so be it.

Is that concept so hard to grasp?

When you accept certain behavior from men, you make it hard on the next woman they come in contact with, because he’s thinking if one woman is fine with his behavior, so will the next. It’s a f*cking cycle! Get it?? I’ve learned this from first hand experience and I would never want some woman to have to come across some man that wasn’t called out on his bullsh*t by me.

So you think it’s acceptable for a man not to even have the decency to call a woman to cancel on a date? Well damn, I’d hate to see you all dressed up and nowhere to go one day as you sit there thinking what may have happened, or what could have happened to your ‘date’, who’s probably some where hanging with the boys and couldn’t give a damn about calling you to cancel (I only used this example b/c of a recent personal experience & the ill  ’advice’ a female friend gave me).

So you think it’s acceptable for a man to hit a woman, if she hit him first? Well damn, lets see what happens when you’re Chris Browned, and left with a busted lip, lumps on your forehead, after you, being all of 5?4 and 110 lbs decide to raise your hand at your 6?3 boyfriend, who then beats you like a man.

Needless to say, some women have some serious battered minds because you’re used to dealing with bullsh*t men and making excuses for them! Women, some of you have got to do better!

Now, men, you’d think there would come a time in your life when you realize the sh*t that you’re doing is wrong.

Not all men/women are created equal. This I know.

But do you not realize the chances of you some day having a daughter, and her coming across someone exactly like you? It’s very possible. I asked a friend of mine a while back, would he want his daughter to date someone like him? Of course he couldn’t answer that, because he knew that the answer would be a ‘NO’.

I used to tell my guy friends to be the man they’d want to see their future daughter with, or be the man they’d want to see their son grow up to be. I don’t think that concept is so hard to grasp, but I guess it’s easier said than done.

Cycles are meant to be broken.

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