Comments on: October Is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

By: Kit (Keep It Trill)

Kit (Keep It Trill) — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 14:59:07 +0000

Excellent post. Domestic abusers are not only bullies, but family terrorists. Some have serious drug and/or mental health disorders, and many have a long history of bullying others that go back to their childhoods. Some are just warped from the sub-culture that men are entitled to do whatever they please when it comes to women.

It's tough getting out of these relationships when the woman has limited or little funds, even with the help from social programs. Some abusers are so dangerous that the woman fears for not only her safety, but that of her other children or relatives. Quite a few women end up incarcerated from killing the man who would kill them, and that's really sad.

I like that you added information for help at the end of this post. The whole thing is very valuable and much needed.

By: Kit (Keep It Trill)

Kit (Keep It Trill) — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 09:59:07 +0000

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By: [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

[fung'ke] [blak] [chik] — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 23:13:51 +0000

Yes, it's also Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

By: Mistajaycee

Mistajaycee — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 15:32:35 +0000

Jail and a gooooooooooooooood Ass Kicking for a dude that hits a Woman!
Don't stay if it ever goes there Ladies!
Mista Jaycee

By: lola_gets

lola_gets — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 00:57:32 +0000

Great post! I didnt know that this was the theme for October…I might just have to write a post about this subject myself…hmmm….

By: Keith

Keith — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 04:49:15 +0000

Any man who beats on a woman is worse than a coward. A woman should be treated as a lady and a queen. A man should never lay a hand on a woman. It’s beyond evil. A woman who had been my aunt ( my uncle – my mother’s brother – had died and she had remarried) was beaten by her second husband. He would beat her to the point of death. She might leave, but she always came back. The only thing that kept her from coming back the last time was being killed in a car accident. I saw how little respect and self esteem she had. She always felt like it was her fault. That she had done something to deserve this. That she wouldn’t find a man who wanted her. Women definitely need to be empowered. They need to be taught to love themselves. Build up your self confidence and self esteem. Never let a man bring you down, never let him hit you, etc. Stand up for yourself because in the end you are the only one who can end it.

By: Rena

Rena — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 04:20:09 +0000

Fortunately, I have not been a victim of domestic violence but like many I had two friends who were. Thankfully, they did get out of the relationships before they escalated any further. Their boyfriends couldn’t stand me and the feeling was mutual. While with her boyfriend one friend accused me of being jealous( he told her that I was flirting with him) I told her that if he was on fire I wouldn’t waste my spit to help him. We stopped being friends shortly after that but I am still in contact with her sister and she told me that she had finally left him. My other friend it’s too many stories to list but the short story is her bleeding in my bathroom, him banging on my door, me with my gun( I’m licensed), me calling the cops, him getting arrested, her going back to him 2 days later. She finally did leave her boyfriend a few months later but she started to pull away from all of her friends, she moved without even telling us. Through her family I have learned that she is doing good.

I’m happy that they did get out before it escalated any further but I’m sad that I lost 2 friends in the process.

By: Ohsoluvlee1

Ohsoluvlee1 — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 02:27:07 +0000

I too have been a victim, by more than one man. I have blogged about it in the past but try not to really think about it anymore since I feel like those days are “behind me.” However, thanks for doing your part to increase awareness. I just found out today that two of my cousins little friends(they’re 35-36, i’m 39, but I still see them as the little teens they used to be…lol) have been abused by their significant other/husband…neither want to leave, one because of the financial security, the other because of her kids. Nobody can make you leave until you’re ready…so I explained that to my cousin and gave her some advice on how to be there when needed and how to not judge. Not easy I know, but very very necessary if you expect any kind of results…

By: Anthony Taurus

Anthony Taurus — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 01:08:27 +0000

Women need empowerment. If I have daughters I am gon teach them how to fight. Any children I have will be taught how to fight. But, this is about women. I want my daughters to fight like Gina Carano, bad ass muy thai chick. Imagine some asshole tryin to beat her ass. HA. Let the ass whoopage begin.

I think it all boils down to how to put up with a bully. The only way to do that is to whooooooop they ass. I did plenty of bully ass whoopin in my day too. The older they get, the more punishment they need. It’s gotta get to the point that a sumbitch wanna rethink his existence on this planet to the point that the next time he even wanna swat a fly, he think twice.

my2

By: Shannon Ledbetter

Shannon Ledbetter — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 00:58:04 +0000

Thank you for posting about this.

I think I may do a little research of my own and post something also.

By: [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

[fung'ke] [blak] [chik] — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 00:19:58 +0000

I don't know what's worst mental or physical abuse..can't say that I've been in involved an a heavily physical abusive relationship…only one incident..but I handled that on my own..but mental abuse is a whole different story….

By: [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

[fung'ke] [blak] [chik] — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 00:18:54 +0000

Sure! I don't mind at all!

By: culturaldynamics

culturaldynamics — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 00:13:46 +0000

I like this post. Can I crosspost it over at daddyBstrong?

By: CurvyGurl

CurvyGurl — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 23:09:01 +0000

I’m so glad Tricia left. There’s absolutely no reason for this to be tolerated. It’s also important to tell young girls/women this as well.

By: Kiwi

Kiwi — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 21:58:40 +0000

I’ve been there…and it is a helpless feeling. Women SHOULD know they have choices…and once out…the ability to detect the signs of an abusive man. This is a great blog…very informative.

By: rawdawgbuffalo

rawdawgbuffalo — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 17:19:24 +0000

love should only hurt if she tries to cook for u and give u indegestion, what u describe is criminal

By: kweenkiwi

kweenkiwi — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:35:12 +0000

This is a very NEEDED blog, Yesha. I have been in an abusive relationship. Once he couldn't actually “beat me”, he took to verbally, emotionally and mentally abusing me. I'm never ashamed to tell my story. I pray someone knows that ANYONE can be a victim, and you CAN overcome it. It hasn't changed my outlook on love and relationships when it comes to trusting and giving my heart, but it has made me aware of early signs to pay attention to.

Sadly, like addictions…abuse is something that the victim has to be willing to get out of. THEY have to make the choice to leave and seek help or no one will get through to them. They should always know that someone is there to help them pick up the pieces when they do decide to leave (which is hopefully before someone's life is taken).

GREAT blog, Doc…

By: qb

qb — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:30:46 +0000

I appreciate how real and informative your blogs are.

Maybe it’s because I have never been physically abused but I don’t understand how someone could stay in a situation like that. I had a boyfriend once that just threatened me over the phone. We were arguing and he told me that I was lucky he wasnt there or he’d have slapped the sh!t outta me. And he was serious. That’s all it took – i packed his stuff up and kicked him out of the house.

By: Anonymiss

Anonymiss — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 03:47:35 +0000

Damn, two years gone just like that. =( I'm glad she left but sadly many others stay.